Low Libido: How Your Pelvic Floor May Be Part of the Picture
- Erica O'Neal
- Aug 12
- 8 min read
Low libido is incredibly common, yet it is something many people feel uncomfortable talking about—even with their healthcare providers.
Maybe you’ve noticed that you simply don’t think about sex as often as you used to. Maybe you want to want sex, but your body just isn’t responding. Maybe sex has become uncomfortable or painful, so your desire has gradually disappeared. Or perhaps you feel disconnected from your body and aren’t sure why.
Low libido is rarely caused by one single thing.
Hormonal changes, stress, sleep, medications, relationships, mental health, pain, postpartum changes, perimenopause, menopause, and your pelvic floor can all play a role.
And while pelvic floor physical therapy isn't a treatment for every cause of low libido, your pelvic floor can be an important piece of the puzzle—especially when pain, muscle tension,
pelvic floor dysfunction, or changes in your body are involved.
At Trailhead Physical Therapy and Wellness in Traverse City, we help people better understand their pelvic health, reduce pain and tension, and reconnect with their bodies.
What Is Low Libido?
Libido refers to sexual desire or interest in sexual activity.
There isn't one "normal" level of libido. Some people naturally have a high sex drive, while others have very little interest in sex. Your libido can also change throughout your life.
Low libido becomes more important to address when your change in sexual desire bothers you or affects your quality of life or relationship.
You might notice:
You're rarely interested in sex.
You don't think about sex as often as you used to.
You want to feel desire but can't seem to access it.
You avoid intimacy because you're worried it will hurt.
You feel disconnected from your body.
Sex feels like another item on your to-do list.
You experience pain, burning, pressure, or tightness with penetration.
You have difficulty becoming physically aroused.
You feel anxious or tense when intimacy begins.
Your libido changed after having a baby.
Your libido changed during perimenopause or menopause.
You feel frustrated because you "should" want sex more often.
If any of these sound familiar, you're not alone.
Why Does Libido Decrease?
Sexual desire is influenced by much more than hormones.
Think of libido as a whole-body experience rather than something controlled by one body part.
Common factors that can affect libido include:
Hormonal changes
Pregnancy and postpartum recovery
Breastfeeding
Perimenopause and menopause
Stress
Poor sleep
Fatigue
Parenting demands
Relationship stress
Anxiety or depression
Certain medications
Chronic pain
Pelvic pain
Painful intercourse
Pelvic floor muscle tension
Vaginal dryness
Changes in body image
Previous negative or painful sexual experiences
Feeling disconnected from your body
Sometimes several of these factors are happening at the same time.
For example, imagine someone who has recently had a baby.
She's exhausted. Her hormones have changed. She's breastfeeding. Her pelvic floor may still be recovering from pregnancy and delivery. Intercourse may feel uncomfortable or painful. She may be worried about leaking urine or having pelvic organ prolapse symptoms.
It makes perfect sense that sex might not be at the top of her priority list.
That doesn't mean something is wrong with her.
It means her body may need support.
What Does the Pelvic Floor Have to Do With Libido?
The pelvic floor is a group of muscles that sits at the bottom of your pelvis.
These muscles help with:
Bladder control
Bowel control
Supporting the pelvic organs
Sexual function
Pelvic stability
Core coordination
Relaxation and lengthening during penetration
And just like any other muscle, the pelvic floor can become too tight, too weak, poorly coordinated, or difficult to relax.
This can have a significant impact on sexual comfort.
A pelvic floor that is constantly tense may contribute to:
Pain with penetration
Pain with intercourse
Difficulty tolerating a tampon
Pain with pelvic exams
Vaginal or pelvic pressure
Burning or aching
Pain after sex
Difficulty relaxing during intimacy
Fear or anticipation of pain
When sex repeatedly hurts, your brain can begin to associate intimacy with discomfort.
That can create a cycle:
Pain → tension → fear/anticipation → more tension → more pain → less desire
Over time, you may begin avoiding sex altogether.
And this is one situation where pelvic floor physical therapy can be especially helpful.
Can Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy Help With Low Libido?
Sometimes—and especially when pelvic floor dysfunction, pain, or muscle tension is contributing to the problem.
Pelvic floor physical therapy does not "increase your libido" in the same way a medication might target a specific physiological mechanism.
Instead, we look at the physical factors that may be getting in the way of comfortable, enjoyable intimacy.
Treatment may focus on:
1. Reducing Pelvic Floor Muscle Tension
A common misconception is that everyone needs to "strengthen their pelvic floor."
Not necessarily.
Some people have pelvic floor muscles that are already working too hard.
If those muscles don't know how to relax, they may contribute to pain with penetration or intercourse.
Your pelvic floor therapist can teach you how to recognize tension and practice letting those muscles soften and lengthen.
2. Improving Pelvic Floor Relaxation
The ability to contract your pelvic floor is important.
But the ability to relax it is just as important.
During penetration, the pelvic floor needs to be able to lengthen and accommodate movement.
Treatment may include:
Diaphragmatic breathing
Pelvic floor lengthening
Relaxation exercises
Positioning
Gentle mobility
Body awareness
Down-regulation strategies
The goal isn't to constantly "hold" or "tighten."
It's to develop better control and adaptability.
3. Addressing Pain With Sex
Painful sex, also called dyspareunia, is one of the most common reasons someone may lose interest in intimacy.
And understandably so.
If your brain expects sex to hurt, desire can become harder to access.
Pelvic floor physical therapy may help identify contributing factors such as:
Pelvic floor muscle overactivity
Scar tissue
Pelvic floor weakness or poor coordination
Hip or pelvic mobility restrictions
Abdominal or pelvic muscle tension
Postpartum changes
Vulvar or vaginal pain
Nervous system sensitivity
Treatment is individualized based on your symptoms and goals.
4. Helping You Reconnect With Your Body
Sometimes pelvic floor therapy isn't about "fixing" a muscle.
It's about helping you understand what you're feeling.
Many people have spent years ignoring their pelvic region because it feels uncomfortable, embarrassing, or disconnected.
Pelvic health physical therapy can help you learn:
What pelvic floor tension feels like
What relaxation feels like
How your breathing affects your pelvic floor
How your hips and pelvis move
Where you're holding tension
How to recognize your body's signals
How to move and exercise with more confidence
Body awareness can be an important part of feeling more connected during intimacy.
Low Libido After Having a Baby
It's very normal for sexual desire to change after pregnancy and childbirth.
Your body has been through an enormous physical and hormonal transition.
You may be dealing with:
Vaginal or perineal tearing
C-section recovery
Scar tissue
Pelvic floor weakness
Pelvic floor tension
Urinary leakage
Pelvic organ prolapse
Vaginal dryness
Breastfeeding
Hormonal changes
Sleep deprivation
Exhaustion
Changes in body image
Pain with intercourse
Sometimes people assume they simply need to "wait until they're healed."
But healing doesn't always happen automatically.
If intercourse remains painful, your pelvic floor feels tight, or you're struggling to reconnect with your body, pelvic floor physical therapy can be part of your postpartum recovery.
And you don't have to wait until something is severely wrong to seek help.
Low Libido During Perimenopause and Menopause
Hormonal changes can also have a major impact on sexual health.
During perimenopause and menopause, changes in estrogen and other hormones can contribute to changes in:
Vaginal tissue
Vaginal lubrication
Sexual comfort
Pelvic floor function
Sleep
Mood
Energy
Sexual desire
Some people experience genitourinary syndrome of menopause (GSM), which can involve vaginal dryness, burning, irritation, urinary symptoms, and pain with sex.
If sex has become uncomfortable, it is understandable that your desire may decrease.
Your pelvic floor physical therapist can address the musculoskeletal component of these symptoms and work alongside your medical provider when hormonal or vaginal tissue changes also need attention.
You don't have to accept painful sex as an inevitable part of getting older.
What If My Pelvic Floor Is Weak Instead of Tight?
Pelvic floor weakness can also affect sexual function.
The pelvic floor contributes to sexual response and pelvic stability, and some people benefit from improving pelvic floor strength and coordination.
However, this is where individualized assessment matters.
If your pelvic floor is already overactive, simply doing hundreds of Kegels may actually make your symptoms worse.
A pelvic floor physical therapist can determine whether your muscles need:
Strengthening, relaxation, coordination—or some combination of all three.
The goal isn't simply to have a "strong" pelvic floor.
The goal is to have a pelvic floor that can contract, relax, lengthen, and coordinate appropriately for what you're asking your body to do.
What Happens During Pelvic Floor PT for Sexual Health?
One of the biggest questions people have is:
"What are you actually going to do?"
The answer is: it depends on you.
Your first visit may include discussion about:
Your symptoms
Your sexual concerns
Pain with intercourse
Pregnancy and birth history
Menstrual or hormonal changes
Bladder and bowel symptoms
Exercise and activity
Stress and sleep
Previous injuries or surgeries
Your goals for therapy
We may also look at:
Breathing patterns
Posture and movement
Hip mobility
Core coordination
Abdominal tension
Pelvic floor coordination
Muscle strength and relaxation
An internal pelvic floor examination may be offered when appropriate, but it is not automatically required.
You are always part of the decision-making process.
Pelvic Floor PT Isn't Just Kegels
If you've ever searched for information about pelvic floor therapy, you've probably heard of Kegels.
Kegels can be helpful for some people—but they aren't the answer to every pelvic floor problem.
For someone with low libido and painful intercourse, the priority may actually be learning how to:
Relax.
Breathe.
Lengthen.
Move.
Reduce muscle guarding.
Feel safe and comfortable in your body.
Pelvic floor therapy is much more than strengthening exercises.
What About Stress and the Nervous System?
Your nervous system plays an important role in how your body responds to intimacy.
When you're stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, or anticipating pain, your body may have a harder time shifting into a state that supports sexual arousal and connection.
This doesn't mean your symptoms are "all in your head."
It means your brain and body are constantly communicating.
Pelvic floor physical therapy can incorporate strategies such as:
Breathing
Gentle movement
Relaxation
Body awareness
Nervous system regulation
Education
Gradual exposure to comfortable movement and sensation
The goal is not to force your body to relax.
It's to help create the conditions where relaxation and comfort are easier to access.
When Should You Talk With Your Healthcare Provider?
Low libido can sometimes have medical or hormonal causes that are outside the scope of physical therapy.
It's worth talking with your physician, gynecologist, or other healthcare provider if your libido has changed significantly or you're experiencing symptoms such as:
Significant vaginal dryness
Pain or bleeding with intercourse
New pelvic pain
Sudden changes in sexual function
Significant mood changes
Changes after starting a medication
Symptoms associated with perimenopause or menopause
Concerns about hormones
Other changes that feel unusual for you
Pelvic floor physical therapy can work alongside medical care.
You don't have to choose between addressing hormones, medications, relationships, stress, or the physical body.
Often, more than one piece needs attention.
The Bottom Line: Low Libido Is More Complicated Than "Not Being Interested in Sex"
If your sex drive has changed, you're not broken.
And you don't have to force yourself to be more interested in sex.
Instead, it can be helpful to ask:
What is getting in the way?
Is it pain?
Stress?
Hormonal changes?
Exhaustion?
Pelvic floor tension?
Fear of pain?
Feeling disconnected from your body?
A recent pregnancy?
Perimenopause?
Something else entirely?
Sometimes improving sexual health starts with addressing the physical barriers that make intimacy uncomfortable.
And for many people, the pelvic floor is an important part of that conversation.
How Trailhead Physical Therapy Can Help
At Trailhead Physical Therapy and Wellness in Traverse City, we take a whole-body approach to pelvic health.
Our goal isn't simply to tell you to "do more Kegels" or give you a list of exercises.
We want to understand what your body is doing and why.
For someone experiencing low libido, that may mean addressing:
Pelvic floor tension
Pain with intercourse
Pelvic floor weakness
Muscle coordination
Postpartum changes
Perimenopause and menopause-related changes
Hip and pelvic mobility
Breathing and core coordination
Nervous system regulation
Body awareness
Most importantly, your goals guide your care.
You deserve to feel comfortable, confident, and connected in your body.
If low libido is bothering you—especially if pain, pelvic floor symptoms, or hormonal changes are part of the picture—pelvic floor physical therapy may be one piece of the solution.
Ready to talk about what's going on?
Schedule a pelvic health evaluation with Trailhead Physical Therapy and Wellness in Traverse City, Michigan. You don't have to figure it out alone.
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